Wondering. Wishing. Waiting.

That about sums up a girl’s mind after a date with a new guy…that is, if she’s intrigued enough to want a second date.

If you haven’t already deduced it by now, I’m absolutely awful at this whole casual dating thing. I guess what it boils down to, is that I have one foot in and one foot out the door: half of me cares because I like meeting new people and surrounding myself with friends, but half of me doesn’t give a f*ck because as far as romance is concerned, I’m quite happy on my own.

Yet, like every other girl whose Pinterest boards are decorated with wedding themes (though mine are not, TYVM), I still find myself occasionally caring about someone just enough to wonder where I stand with them. Quite frankly, I find that extremely annoying. There are so many more interesting things to occupy my mind with!

That’s the core of why I started this whole Do NOT Text Him nonsense. I can’t stand the guesswork games involved with modern dating and I love distractions. Sure, Elite Daily’s list is absolutely ridiculous. But you know what? It’s pretty damn entertaining.

More importantly, it reminds all of us that what’s more important in this game we call dating, is to stay true to ourselves and our own lives. After all, most men who are worthy of being with us don’t want a woman whose life revolves around him. Yuck. I can tell you with utmost certainty – that’s the LAST thing I want in a guy – or even a friend, for that matter.

Wondering when he’ll text, waiting for his response, calculating the proper amount of time you should wait to respond, and wishing for him to ask you out again is boring, petty, and fruitless. If you’re in introvert, go on Amazon right now and buy The Betches‘ new gem I Had a Nice Time & Other Lies for some motivation and get Prime 1 hour shipping, so you’re not waiting for that, too. If you need people to distract you, grab your besties and hit happy hour after work. Tell them you’re not allowed to mention him, and if you do, you’ll be forced to do shots. Okay. That might be a bad idea…but you get the picture, right?

I’ll sum it up for you:

No matter how much you think you like him, allowing him to consume your mind will never be worth it. It doesn’t matter how cute he is, what kind of car he drives, how much he loves his cat (or dog), what he does for a living, his religion, how much money he makes, or that the two of you have “everything” in common. There is SO much more to life, your 20’s, and even to dating.

Sometimes, not playing the game is the best way to win.